Attunement

It is so important to be understood. 
To feel seen.

First by self,  then by others. 

Without attunement:
Closeness doesn't feel like connecting.
Conversation doesn't feel mutual.
Presence doesn't feel supportive. 

Time out for a child is the worst punishment.  They learn they will be abandoned if they don't mask to an acceptable emotional state.  Time outs are for parents only. 

If you say "I'm not done talking" (and then just repeat the last thing you said without any additions) to just leave it in silence, did you even want to hear what the other person wanted to say?



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